Feb 13, 2018

February 12, 2018: Maturity, Knowing 'The Other', L'Enfant Terrible.



Maturity is being able to see through the eyes of another.”

                        ----from "The Quotations of Chairman Joe"

Maturity is being able to see through the eyes of another. This is its true definition. Being able to see through the eyes of another means that one must recognize 'the other'. One must be able to put oneself, intellectually and, at times, emotionally in the 'place' of 'the other'. In doing so one not only recognizes 'the other', but begins the process of legitimizing the presence of 'the other', perhaps in time getting to truly know 'the other'.

We define juvenile—meaning 'childlike-- behavior as a pronounced self-centeredness, often manifesting itself into an aggravating form of narcissism. Just as for the Greeks citizen was the opposite of idiot, maturity is the opposite of childlike. And what most marks the passage from childhood to adulthood? Being able to apprehend, understand, see through the eyes of and putting oneself in the place of the other. In a word: empathy.

To become mature one must have empathy. Those familiar with childhood development know that the process of recognizing, then knowing 'the other', takes some time. For some it is a normal process taking a few months or years; for some it is a long and tortuous process; for others it never happens. Normally the child begins to see beyond himself in childhood and the process of maturity becomes well advanced by early adolescence. In the case of our Caesar Disgustus, “The Donald” never took the first step toward maturity.

When columnist George F. Will wrote that tRUMP doesn't know what it is to know he was referring to objective knowledge. The problem runs much deeper than that. Caesar Disgustus' 'unknowing' extends far beyond textbook knowledge. Indeed it extends to the very heart of body and soul; for what makes Disgustus so disgusting is his inability to see beyond himself. He is an adult trapped in the mind of a three year old, held in the grips of a mental and emotional retardation that renders him unable to grasp the essence of anyone about him. People are simply objects to be used and discarded or, if he is offended, simply dismissed. Biographer David Cay Johnston relates how tRUMP reacted when members of the family sued because the heirs of his alcoholic brother Fred were not give their due. Disgustus cut off the medical insurance for his Great-Nephew who then died an early death. Explaining himself he simply told his biographer that “they had sued my dad”--that is his father's estate. This, in the eyes of Disgustus was an unforgivable act causing, in turn, an act of retribution regardless of the consequent pain and suffering. Disgustus could not relate to the pain he would cause for he cannot see through the eyes of another, he cannot see beyond himself.

This week we see him defending a White House aide who was forced from office by accusations of domestic violence, acts which prevented him from gaining the necessary security clearance for the job he held for over a year. Disgustus couldn't bring himself to see through the eyes of the victim, he could only chirp about what a sad day it was for the perpetrator, what a great job he had done while serving by his side (and, by extension, what a great choice Disgustus had made putting him there), and how unfair the whole process had been. Nothing about the pain and suffering of the victims, nothing about the inappropriateness and the mistakes made concerning the hiring of this man and keeping him in a position requiring security clearances that everyone knew were not to be forthcoming.

It is for these reasons that he fails so miserably at performing one of the most important tasks of the office—that of being consoler-in-chief. To console the nation one must have empathy and empathy, for this man-child, simply does not exist. It is for these reasons that he cannot bring himself to apologize no matter how egregiously offensive his actions. It is for these reasons that he takes no heed to the pain and suffering his policies inflict—on immigrants, the sick and elderly, on the poor, on minorities, on the very middle class upon whom a healthy republic depends. It is for these reasons that he always plays the victim, always throwing a temper tantrum, for he cannot possibly perceive his actions to be anything but honorable; any criticism as disingenuous and a betrayal. It is for this reason that Disgustus, like the cartoon character Pepe Le Pew, cannot understand why the country finds him so disgusting.

The Donald”, as his second wife called him, simply never grew up; the child never became a man. And now the White House has become, in Senator Corker's telling phrase, “an adult day-care center”, where aides work tirelessly, if not entirely successfully, trying to control “L' Enfant Terrible”.

An' Br'er Putin, he jus' laugh and laugh”.

Impeach and Imprison
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Note: L'Enfant Terrible is a French expression meaning one whose startingly unconventional remarks or behavior cause deep embarrassment to those around him, as a child will often offend the adults in the room by inappropriate behaviors.



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